My Explanation of Slackness…

Wow... It's been a minute since I've been on here.
I did not notice how long it's been (time goes by so fast).
What really snapped me out of it was Don commenting on a very old post.
I felt bad for my lack of reading material.

A couple months ago I would have blamed my slackness on twitter
....(but that was not the case)
I decided to quit and delete my account for two reasons.
1. Twitter became my mini blog and started neglecting my site.
2. Some people that I knew began to look phony to me. It’s like they took on a whole new personality once they logged on.
Yet after deleting my account and losing my followers….I still did not post (SMH) or checked up on the blogs on my list :(
Instead I was building other sites, working my ass off, and researching things like the new world order, occult mind control, illuminati, and freemasonry.
But I gave up on the research. All it did was drive me crazy (too much info & too deep for me)…

I also had another moment of depression. I don’t even know what that was about.
But I had to go to work daily with a fake ass smile on my face and deal with people when I did not want to be bothered. At the time I rather be locked in my room, curled up in my bed.
It was so annoying to me to have to go on with my everyday life like it’s all good, and have to listen to other people’s problems when I was internally dealing with my own issues that I could not figure out.
But I listened and gave the best advice I could.

Well everything is good now.
I rejoined twitter and promised myself to find a balance and start blogging more.
I still haven’t figured out what my little moment was about, but I’m back to the old me.
I prayed that God would take that pain away from me and he did.

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Seedless Dating...

May I take your order...
...Yes. I would like a #1. Tall, Dark, and Handsome with No Kids Please

Due to the fact that my first love cheated on me and had a little bastard ..child, I aim not to date dudes with kids.
I can’t lie...Back in the day I was tricked into a few dates by guys that hid their kids pretty well.
I would somehow find out that the charming young man that I was getting to know was actually a deadbeat plotting on planting his next seed.

But as my peers and I start to get older, I began to realize that meeting a dude with no kids is actually becoming a commodity.
Same goes for the guys.
I’ve heard my boys brag numerous times about meeting a chic with no ‘baggage’.

We all have certain qualities we look for in a mate.
When talking to other females about dating, most of them have ‘A dude with no kids’ high on their list.
I guess it all stems from the drama.
Personally, I'd rather not deal with the baby mamma drama.
Her being spiteful and stressing the guy out by keeping the baby away, Calling/Texting him about how she wants them to be a family…etc, etc.
Oh, and lets not forget the hood fact that your dude can always get the kitty from his BM whenever he likes (and that alone will make me kill his ass).

In no way or form do I have anything against people making babies.
I might end up being someone’s crazy ass baby mother one day (knock on wood).
You never know what God has planned out for you.
But I must admit. I am selfish!
I want my child to be his/her father’s first and only.
I do not want to share my future kid’s father with anyone else.
Which also means, my kid’s pops will be my husband, and God knows I’m nowhere near ready for that white picket fence dream.

Well, we all know that no one is perfect.
So when getting to know someone you have to choose to look past certain things.
It’s up to you to pick out what means the most.
Many of us have unrealistic qualities of the ideal mate in our minds.
That girl or guy from down the block with the two rug rats could actually be your soul mate.

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