I know there’s no such thing as a perfect human being. We all have our flaws and different characteristics that make us unique. Yet we all have this image of the ‘perfect mate’ in our minds.
Not too long ago I ran into a couple guys that I haven’t seen in awhile at the mall. We decide to do a little catching up while we ate at the food court. Out of nowhere (really just being nosy), I asked them to describe the ‘perfect mate’. The loudest of the two states with a smirk on his face, “She has to be cute, with a fat ass, and nice feet. She definitely gotta have her own money, ‘cause I refuse to be any bitch’s trick. And no kids.” They started giggling and talking amongst themselves. Then I had to ask, “What about other than the physical?” I thought no one heard me because it got a little quiet and they were just looking at me. Just as I was about to repeat the question, the other guy spoke up. “She has to be intelligent and have ambition. I can’t stand a lazy person.” I couldn’t argue with that, so I left it alone.
Later on that day, I was telling a friend of mine about my day. Then I couldn’t help but to ask her the same question, and she gave me a similar answer. “He gotta have a job, a nice car won’t hurt, and a bbiigg d*ck. Oh and no kids. But if he does have kids, no baby momma drama. He definitely has to be cute. But if he’s flyy, I might look past that, a little. Around 6 feet and nice brown complexion.”
I know that physical attraction is very important in a relationship. It’s what catches your eye in the first place, and if well maintained, it will keep your interest. But what ever happened to personality traits? What about how someone carries or themselves, their goals, or their way of living?
She can have a fat ass, but what if her hygiene isn’t up to par?
He can have a big dick, but what if he doesn’t know what to do with it?
Personally I need mental and physical stimulation. My mate has to be able to challenge my mind and look good doing it. His up bringing is also very important, and so are other characteristic and behavioral traits.
We’re never going to find exactly what we pictured in our mind as the ‘perfect mate’. Some things are hard to look past and some things can easily be fixed with the right influence.
Due to the fact that there is no such thing as that perfect person. With out settling for less, what would/did you look pass in a mate?
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