Selfish Solution...

Ladies…
We need to stop this!!!
Quit having babies because you want to ‘keep’ a man.
Babies are not fashion accessories, meal tickets, or hog ties.
They are a gift from God!
There are thousands of married couples out there that are trying to get pregnant but can't. Yet we have these young girls dropping babies for every dude, like it’s a souvenir for the time they slept together. Well that souvenir is now yours for the rest of your life, while homeboy moved on.
I understand that in many cases, the girls in this situation might suffer from low self-esteem and/or not having a father figure at home.
I strongly believe if they took the time to think before they act, a lot of them would not bring a child into this evil world to trap a man or to satisfy any selfish need.

We’ve all heard someone say, a woman knows if she would sleep with a man within fifteen minutes.
Well, a man knows what he wants from a woman the moment he lays eyes on her.
Off bat, a man knows if you’re a one nighter or a keeper.
So for females to purposely/deliberately have a child to ‘lock down’ a man is out right stupid and narrow-minded.

I know a lot of young mothers, and the majority of them had their kids because they wanted to. I have the utmost respect for them (hey Kish) because they do what they have to do to care for their kids without begging some man or degrading themselves.

I just think girls need to stop having babies for all the wrong reasons.
Life is not a joke and they are playing with lives.

You have to love yourself before you love anyone else….

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Between The Lines...

In a relationship there are chain of events that might leave one person a tab bit suspicious of the other. It could be a small action, yet leaves great concern of infidelity. At times it could just be pure paranoia, but it could also be plain signs of deception…

Take these two for example:

• You speak to your mate through out the day while they’re at work, but you noticed every day after 7 p.m they cannot be reached.
  
  


• You send your mate one of those cute little notes on MySpace, but you keep getting excuses to why your messages never make it past approval.

Now, what is your conclusion?

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New Men?

I guess Lloyd wasn’t lying when he said ‘This is the year of the Lover’.
It seems like every male whore that I know has settled down.
The year is not even over yet and I’ve received about 4 invites to baby showers and phone calls about how they have found “the one”.
These are the same guys that you would hardly see with the same chic.
Now some of them are about to be dads.
It’s crazy…

I know as we get older the game gets old also. Plus there are too many diseases floating around out there.
I wish them all the best.
But I can’t help but to wonder….
Is there such thing as a reformed man whore?
Can a womanizer really settle down without cheating?

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Friends or None...

I’m living a double standard and I don’t know what to do about it.
Every now and then it becomes a minor issue between the BF and I, and I feel stuck.
I honestly don’t know how to go about this situation…

Here’s the issue:
Most of my friends are males, and the mere thought of my BF having a close female friend doesn’t sit too well with me.

I’ve heard over and over again that men and women cannot be friends.
I personally think that’s bull…
I mean, yeah there were a few incidences where 1 (or maybe 2) of my male friends had one too many one day and verbalized his feelings about me.
But other than that, I don’t see why men and women can’t be friends.
Then again I do kind of see why they can’t.

You know what, forget it…
This shit is too complicated and I’m contradicting myself.

This whole thing just has me torn.
I’ve know most of my friends damn near half my life and due to some past experiences, I’m very cautious of who I allow to get close to me.
To just cut them off seems so wrong.

What’s a girl to do???


*Well, I guess my friend that’s planning my make believe wedding won’t have much to do. It's gonna be a small guest list...

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